People face different problems everyday. It is normal, and it is part of life. Just like victories and happiness, problems improve life. It is vital not to let problems intimidate a person and use them, instead, to empower ones self. There are a number of ways, suggested in books and online, in overcoming the worst fears and problems. The following are some of the ways to effectively deal and handle problems.
First important thing is to avoid problems when they seem mild or momentary, because they will go away when we do not mind them. This is especially true when the person is not ready to face problems, it is best to avoid them. However, when a person knows that he/she has mental strength should he/she tries to decide on the problem. In contrast, for some persons, it is helpful to feel intensely the pain caused by the problem; as this helps get rid of some of the pride by easing a correlation with the very heart of life, thereby, focusing concentration in the right direction.
Identifying and accommodating oneÃ¯Â¿Â½s troubles in the precise spirit is essential to start the procedure of healing (Thondup). It is a personÃ¯Â¿Â½s instinct to forget problems, but they reappear in a more destructive appearance. Recognizing a problem clearly is the foremost step to dealing with it, and then each problem appears easier and possible to deal with.
Comes after is to feel the problem. It is helpful to allow the feelings to Ã¯Â¿Â½surface so that they can be releasedÃ¯Â¿Â½ (Thondup, Ã‚Â¶9), all emotions should be accepted. Crying could help as it Ã¯Â¿Â½releases mental stress, physical pressure and chemical toxins that build up when we hold back painÃ¯Â¿Â½ (Thondup, Ã‚Â¶9). Feelings must be expressed naturally without hiding or shielding the pain caused by the problem. Allow the grief to heal naturally.
Next is to change perceptions or change the way of thinking. Continuously dwelling upon a circumstance, seeing a problem as negative rather than objective, and frequently thinking and talking about its severity make a person suffer. Generating strong positive energy can help cease or at least ease anguish. Think of the problems as challenges, because Ã¯Â¿Â½problemÃ¯Â¿Â½ is a dead-end word and leaves no room for solutions. At times, the manner a person sees the problem is the problem (Dealing with Problems, Ã‚Â¶7). Problems must be seen neutrally without pre-labeling them as pessimistic.
The next step is the process of unraveling the problem. It starts finding the right source. Going back in memory could help. Ã¯Â¿Â½Think of how the problem may have begunÃ¯Â¿Â½ (Thondup, Ã‚Â¶8); and return to the first possible time, place and cause of the pain.
Finally, laugh at the problems. Each person has to realize that any problem, no matter how big, has a solution. As long as a person breathes, no problem is beyond solving, and it is not the end of our lives. Do not get bogged down by problems for there is always hope to those that will look for it. Ã¯Â¿Â½A free and fun mindset alone will go a long way in helping you to deal with your problemsÃ¯Â¿Â½ (Dealing with Problems, Ã‚Â¶12).
Every person has a propensity to ignore or take longer time to deal with problems. It may result to other problems, it may become accepted as the norm, or it becomes bigger and harder to sort out. When facing a problem, it is important to look ahead with confidence, and stay focused on what is really wanted and not on the hindrances that are blocking the way. We may not control the problems that come on our way, but we can handle them skillfully and effectively. It is not the problems that a person face, but it is how a person deals and handles the problems. Do not be pushed by the problems, instead, be led by the dreams.
Dealing with problems. Motivation-for-dreamers.com. June 5, 2008. http://www.motivation-for-dreamers.com/dealing-with-problems.html.
Thondup, Tulku. The Healing Power of Mind. New Ed. Shambhala. 1998.